We’ve all been there: you meet someone who seems interesting, and they seem interested in you too... but after the first few dates, they don’t seem to have much interest in pursuing anything further with you. If you’re trying to figure out how to be irresistible to men, here are 10 secrets every woman needs to know that will help make any man want you.
How to Be Irresistible to Men: 10 Secrets Every Woman Needs to Know
Stop Pretending To Be Someone You Are Not
Pretending you’re a flirty party girl who loves to go out and hit up bars when, in reality, you just want a man who can be open and honest with you—is not going to end well. You should be upfront with men about what it is that you really want from a relationship. If you are looking for marriage, don’t pretend like all you care about is casual dating. If men know exactly what they are getting into before they get into it, there will be less confusion and hurt feelings down the road.
This may mean taking a risk by telling men how you feel early on so that they can decide if your relationship goals align or not. However, being direct and truthful shows strength, which is attractive to men. If you do find yourself in a relationship where you are unhappy, it’s important to remember that men typically aren’t mind readers. Tell him how you feel instead of waiting around for him to figure it out on his own.
The same goes for any concerns you have regarding communication, intimacy or commitment. By opening up early on and laying your cards on the table, you create an environment of honesty that makes it easier to work through any issues as they arise rather than harboring resentment towards each other later on. After all, life is too short to spend time with someone who doesn’t make you happy!
Stop Apologizing
According to a study done by researchers at Texas Tech University, men don’t like women who apologize. Instead of apologizing, women should be saying things such as thank you, and I appreciate that. These words make a woman more attractive because they show appreciation and gratitude. Men also prefer women who stand up for themselves rather than those who are constantly apologetic. Men want someone with confidence and self-esteem; therefore, it is important for a woman to stop apologizing when she doesn’t need to do so.
When men see that a woman has confidence in herself, it makes them feel good about themselves too. They enjoy knowing that they can take care of her, and they know that she will be able to take care of them as well. This can lead to marriage down the road. Women should focus on being strong and confident. If men sense weakness or uncertainty, then they may not view a woman as marriage material.
Men don’t want to settle down with someone who isn’t marriage material; therefore, women shouldn’t try to act like something that they aren’t.
Acknowledge Your Beauty and Flaws
The first step toward being irresistible to men is accepting and loving your own beauty, but also acknowledging your flaws. Men don’t want perfection—they want a woman who embraces herself as she is and doesn’t try to change her appearance just because of a man’s reaction.
Tell yourself that you are pretty every day, and one day a man will actually believe it! And if he doesn’t like something about you, he isn’t worth your time anyway. It might sound harsh, but it will help make men see how confident and beautiful you really are inside and out. If they can see beyond what they see on the surface level (and if they do like what they see), then you have made them weak in their knees!
In addition to confidence in self-image, be confident in what makes you unique from other women. If you are truly interested in a man, then show him that there is something about you that he can’t find anywhere else. It could be your sense of humor or your outgoing personality—whatever it is, let him know that he won’t find another woman like you!
Any Man Would Be Lucky to Have You: Once a man knows how beautiful and special he thinks you are, it will become easier for him to want to spend time with you. If you have already spent some time together, then let him know that he is lucky to have you in his life—that there is no one else like you! This way, even if things don’t work out between you two romantically, he will still be happy that he got to know such an amazing woman.
Wear Your Hair Down
I know, it sounds silly. But hear me out. When you wear your hair down (as opposed to in a ponytail), you showcase your face, which makes you look younger and more vibrant. Men are attracted to youth and vitality. So when you hide that from them by styling your hair in a ponytail, you’re signaling that you’re not interested in having a romantic relationship with them—and they will pick up on that vibe instantly! By letting your hair down, you’ll appear softer and more approachable.
And men love soft and approachable women! In fact, one study found that men who were shown pictures of attractive women wearing their hair down were more likely to want to date those women than men who saw those same photos with their hair pulled back. (via The Glamour Guide) What is Your Body Language Saying? One of my favorite body language tips for how to be irresistible to men is simple: Pay attention to what your body language is saying about you. When you’re talking with a man, notice if your body language says I am uncomfortable right now or I am open and relaxed right now. If it says anything other than I am open and relaxed right now, change it!
Show Some Skin
Nothing is sexier than a woman who isn’t afraid to put her best assets on display. While you don’t need to wear a micro-miniskirt or tight-fitting top all of the time, flaunting your curves once in a while doesn’t hurt! Of course, it's important that you look classy and sexy without overdoing it. A little cleavage never hurt anyone—as long as you're not showing too much skin. And if you're worried about what men will think, don't be; men love confident women who aren't afraid to show off their bodies every now and then.
The more confident you are, the more men will find themselves attracted to you. So next time you go out with friends, leave some room for a few curve-hugging outfits in your closet! If You Want Them To Notice You, Be Confident: Confidence is perhaps one of the most attractive qualities a woman can have. Men want to feel like they can protect you and help you reach your goals. When men see how self-assured you are, they know that they won't have to play second fiddle when it comes to being there for you.
Don’t Get Fat
Getting fat is always a temptation for single women. It’s easy to lose your man as soon as you get chubby—he just won’t find you attractive anymore. But if you’re serious about finding love, it pays off to watch what you eat and exercise regularly.
Make sure you don’t gain more than five pounds over a year—or else he may not want anything to do with you! And remember that healthy food doesn’t have to be boring or tasteless; make your own low-calorie meals at home, instead of eating out every night. (Don’t worry, we will teach you how!) You can also ask him to cook for you from time to time—men are surprisingly good in the kitchen when they put their minds to it.
And take up some fun hobbies like yoga or swimming so you stay fit while also having fun! If nothing else, remember that men want a woman who takes care of herself physically—and when she does, they become attracted to her on an even deeper level. So whether you’re looking for Mr. Right now or just hoping to meet someone new, try making yourself irresistible by taking better care of yourself. Men love women who look great but aren’t vain—so embrace your natural beauty without going overboard!
Use Touch on Purpose
If you have a man in your life who seems impervious to your charms, you may be overlooking one of your most powerful weapons—touch. Studies show that touch makes men feel good and can influence their opinion of you positively; but we’re not just talking about applying deodorant here.
Touch on purpose means touching him when he is around (and paying attention to how he responds), touching him when he isn’t around (such as sending a text message or an email letting him know you were thinking about him), and touching him when you are together (holding his hand, for example). The more often you touch on purpose, the more likely it is that he will develop feelings for you. And, yes, men love touch too! They just need to be aware of it so they don’t freak out. In fact, there is even some evidence that shows men like women who initiate touch more than those who wait for them to do so first. So get out there and make some moves! Men love women with confidence...and confidence starts with knowing what you want and going after it!
Talk in an Upbeat Tone of Voice
It’s hard to resist a woman who sounds excited about life and genuinely interested in you. If you sound bored, monotone, or like you’re sleepwalking through life—he won’t be able to get enough of you. Switch up your tone of voice so that it doesn’t turn him off. You might even want to practice sounding more upbeat when talking on the phone with friends or family members. It can help you learn how to make a man fall for you. Men are very visual creatures, but if he hears excitement in your voice he will pay attention to what you have to say. Men love women who know what they want and aren’t afraid to express themselves fully. Don’t hold back! This will only make him run away from you faster than if you didn’t care at all.
Use Confidence in Every Situation
Confidence is key when you’re trying to capture a man’s attention. Men want women who aren’t afraid of living life on their own terms, which means that showing up for every date with self-assurance is essential. Remember that you don’t need a man in your life; if anything, you need his confidence boost! A confident woman is attractive in every situation. Show him what he’s missing out on by staying true to yourself and being comfortable in your own skin. You never know where things might lead—or whether they will at all—but you can be sure that you won’t find love unless you take chances and put yourself out there. Even if he doesn’t notice or approach you, being unafraid will make it easier for him to approach you later. If you’re interested in dating, let him know that you are! If not, feel free to ignore his advances. It may seem harsh, but men respect women who are honest about their intentions. Either way, remember that you always have a choice—and no man should ever make you feel like you don’t.
Leave Him Wanting More
Whether you’re dating casually or seriously, if you don’t know how to leave a man wanting more, it can be a real problem. If you get too clingy and needy, men may lose interest in you; but if you’re too aloof and uninterested, it will drive them crazy. Men want women who make them work for their attention, but who also give them enough attention so they feel wanted and desired. This balance is something that takes practice—and it’s okay if you stumble along the way. With time, you’ll learn exactly what men want from women. And once you do, trust me when I say that men will be knocking down your door!
A woman is like a tea bag - you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water. ~Eleanor Roosevelt~ A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears. ~Woodrow Wyatt~ A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man. ~Laurence J. Peter~ A man's only as old as the woman he feels. ~George Burns~ A wise girl kisses but doesn't love, listens but doesn't believe, and leaves before she is left. ~Marilyn Monroe~ Age does not protect you from love but love to some extent protects you from age. ~Jeanne Moreau (French actress)~ An ideal husband is one who turns up just when he is needed - and then gets out of your way! ~Bette Davis~ Beauty is skin deep; ugly goes right to the bone. ~Unknown~ Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said; after marriage, he'll fall asleep before you finish saying it. ~Bob Monkhouse~ By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher...and that is much better for life as it appears to me now that I am getting old.